Amy Collette

You know when you were a kid and you banged your knee? Your mom or dad or grandma kissed it and suddenly it was all better?

We all have that spark of divine healing power. We can use it any time for ourselves or people we love.

When we get together and focus that energy – magic happens. That’s what a healing circle is.

Individually we connect with the healing energy inside. Then we join together to focus that energy.

The most amazing power and energy we can unleash on the universe is love. Unconditional love is a one-way street that runs from your soul toward another. It has everything to do with what is in your heart.

True unconditional love gives you  freedom from:

• Control – Just giving  without concern about how it’s received or returned
• Expectation – Love is a gift
• Fear – That there’s not enough

You know how, when you say “I love you” for the first time, you’re scared to death that your lover will not say it back to you or feel the same way. We’re so conditioned to be careful about when and how we say those words. That caution really means that we want control over our lovers’ feelings and we want to hear those words, too. But think about it – even if your loved one doesn’t say it back or doesn’t feel that way, your feelings are the same. So – be brave, be bold. Go ahead and say it. One way to relieve the pressure is to preface those beautiful words with something like, “I want to tell you what’s in my heart. There’s no need to say or do anything but just relax and receive this right now. “  Then, take a deep breath, feel it, and say it. What a gift.

In my family, it usually took a near-fatal accident or major surgery to break out the words “I love you.” I grew up thinking that you would wear it out or it would become meaningless if you just threw around “I love yous” all the time. Fortunately, my husband sees this differently. When we were first together, I thought it was just the blush of new love, or that he was just trying to keep me around (control me). But after a couple of decades, he still says it several times a day, and I’ve learned that it makes me feel great to tell him I love him, too. Knowing that love just continues to grow has shown me that there’s more than enough. When you say it, it reminds you of that feeling every day, and nurtures it just like sunshine on a plant.

And best of all, it starts with you.  To be able to give love unconditionally, you have to fill yourself up with it first. That means accepting the love of Spirit, being filled and complete in your place in the universe. When you are filled to overflowing, love energy flows naturally from you.

Emulate your superhero

Think of a person you know who really has it together – they’re successful, fun to be around, and seem confident in who they are. That kind of person claims their power, and shows up big. That’s what makes them magnetic – the kind of person people feel drawn to.

I think of my friend Linda – she always seems calm and centered. When I’m with her I immediately slow down – I know that she takes time to consider what she says, so I do, too. I also feel a great love from her – she loves herself and emanates that to everyone around her.  She’s a role model for me.

A coach once told me that the things that I’m attracted to in other people are qualities that I have myself. That idea stunned me at first, but of course it’s true. I’m drawn to that quality in Linda that makes me feel like I’m the only other person in the room when I’m with her. That she’s giving me her undivided attention and couldn’t be happier to do so.

Is that a superpower? I think so. For me to claim that power in myself means that I have to focus. Turn off the spinning that goes around in my head all the time and be present right now. It’s about being in that quiet, safe place I go in meditation. Nothing else enters my world except that connection with the person I’m with.

You know you have them – let ‘em shine!

I’m just talking about energy – the energy we tend to give away to others by shrinking into  feeling “not enough” – smart enough, rich enough, good-looking enough, loving enough.

When you do that, you’re showing up as a different person than you really are. You are unique in the world – no one has your sense of humor, your crooked nose, your too-straight or too-curly hair. What are you missing out on by not being who you are? And what is the world missing from you?

Do something that scares you

I was recently invited to an exclusive luncheon – and I almost didn’t go. I had to really fight the feeling that I didn’t belong there – everyone there would know I wasn’t “one of them” and I’d be snubbed. I knew that mental junk was just my ego trying to protect me, but the noise it created in my head was pretty loud.  I decided to work through it and go to the luncheon anyway. I wore something I felt good in, gave myself a pep talk, and walked in the room like I did this every day.

Of course I had a great time. And I got a special treat – a woman I had worked with years before was there. I immediately went up to her and re-introduced myself – and she surprised me by being just as thrilled to see me as I was to see her.  If I had decided to let myself be defeated by the chatter in my head, I would not have had that wonderful experience.